Facebook Divorce

Facebook Divorce

 

Facebook-Divorce-Canada“Facebook divorce” refers to the increasing number of marital breakdowns that have occurred as a result of information found or discovered on social networking sites like Facebook.

In recent years, Canadian Courts have allowed postings on social media sites, predominantly Facebook, to be used as evidence in family law matters. Social media sites are often one of the first sources the opposing party will look to in an effort to find incriminating evidence. Anything you post on Facebook may be used against you in your family law matter.

Social media stalking skills have become invaluable to the legal world for divorce cases in particular. Online photo albums, profile pages, news feed comments, status updates and tweets have become a great source for evidence and leads. Even if content on Facebook is deleted, it can later be retrieved by forensic experts and potentially used in court as evidence in divorce proceedings.

Facebook posts are used often as evidence in custody applications and applications to vary child and spousal support. In custody applications, Facbook evidence is used to prove that one of the parents does not act in the best interest of the child or is unsuited to care for the child. Posts that refer to or pictures of high-end purchases can be used to demonstrate the ability to pay support.

The most common way to gather information on Facebook is from the couple’s mutual online friends who still have access to the spouse’s profile and posts. Many times the spouse will “de-friend” a partner but forget about their shared friends, who can access information on their profile. Another way of uncovering useful information is from searching the profiles and posts of the suspected “other man” or “other woman”.

Evidence that may be found on social networking sites, which may potentially be used against you in a “Facebook divorce” situation include;

  • A friend “tags” a compromising photo of you drinking at a party or vacationing when you claim you have no time to see your children or dispute allegations of infidelity.
  • Posts about your location or activities that conflict with business trips or child visitation matters.
  • Posts that suggests infidelity or deception, such as a Facebook status change to “single, but looking”.

Facebook is sited as the cause for divorce in an increasing number of divorce cases because Facebook is creating online (and offline) affairs. Facebook makes it easy for old love interests to reconnect and foster relationships that challenge the foundation of the marriage and lead to divorce.

Tips for Facebook Users Facing a Divorce

  • Be careful what you post on Facebook.
  • Know that what you say or post may be used against you in court, and divorce lawyers use Facebook as a matter of fact when gathering evidence.
  • You do not own the content on Facebook. Facebook has the right to do certain things with your content even without your knowledge.
  • Ask friends and family members to refrain from posting potentially damaging information about you on their Facebook page.
  • Familiarize yourself with privacy settings to ensure there is no way personal information can be accessed.

Lawyers advise users of Facebook and other social media who are headed toward a divorce or custody battle to edit their profiles, be cautious about updating statuses and double check to see who is really a “friend.”

A Child’s Legal Guide to Separation and Divorce – Resource

A Child’s Legal Guide to Separation and Divorce – Resource

Separation and Divorce in Ontario Child's Guide

Separation or divorce is the result of problems between parents and not the fault of the child. But it does affect children and they may have questions about the law of separation and divorce. It is often difficult to answer questions in terms that children will understand. The Ministry of the Attorney General published a well rounded resource that explains legal terms relating to all aspects of separation and divorce and child matters in an easy to understand format.

 

 

The guide,  “A Child’s Legal Guide to Separation and Divorce” contains sections covering;

  • Separation and Divorce
  • Custody
  • Access
  • Parental Disagreements
  • Changes in Custody and Access
  • Parents’ New Partners
  • Money Issues
  • Getting Help
  • Dictionary of Terms

Also included is a list of the books you might want to read about how most children feel when their parents separate or divorce.

Download the Guide:
A Child’s Legal Guide to Separation and Divorce

Published by the Ministry of the Attorney General  Source – Family Law in Ontario

Separation & Divorce – Documents Required to Change a Child Support Order

Separation & Divorce – Documents Required to Change a Child Support Order

child-supportIf you need to get or change a child support order under the Child Support Guidelines, the court will require income information.

Child Support Guidelines are determined by a support table based on the support paying parent’s annual income and number of children entitled to support.

Departing from the support table amount is allowed in certain circumstances, shared custody costs, or in some cases of undue hardship.

Documents must be provided by the parent receiving support, only in cases where the amount of child support requested is different from the amount on the support table or in addition to the table amount. 

If the request for the amount of child support is the same as the amount on the applicable Child Support Guidelines support table, without variation or any claim for contribution to special or extra-ordinary expenses, then only the parent paying child support is required to supply this information.

  • A copy of your personal income tax returns filed with the Canada Revenue Agency for each of the three most recent taxation years together with all material that was filed with the returns.
  • A copy of every notice of assessment and re-assessment that you have received from the Canada Revenue Agency for the three most recent taxation years.
  • (For those who are an employee) The most recent statement of earnings indicating the total earnings paid in the year to date, including overtime or, where such a statement is not available, a letter from your employer setting out that information, including your rate of annual salary or remuneration.
  • (For those who are self-employed) The following documents for the three most recent taxation years:
    1. the financial statements of your business or professional practice, other than a partnership; and
    2. a statement showing a breakdown of all salaries, wages, management fees or other payments or benefits paid to, or on behalf of, persons or corporations with whom you do not deal at arm’s length.
  • (For those who are partners in a partnership) Confirmation of your income and draw from, and capital in, the partnership for its three most recent taxation years.
  • (For those who control a corporation) The following documents for its three most recent taxation years:
    1. the financial statements of the corporation and its subsidiaries; and
    2. a statement showing a breakdown of all salaries, wages, management fees or other payments or benefits paid to, or on behalf of, persons or corporations with whom the corporation, and every related corporation, does not deal at arm’s length.
  • (For those who are a beneficiary under a trust) A copy of the trust settlement agreement and copies of the trust’s three most recent financial statements.
  • (For those who receive income from employment insurance, social assistance, a pension, workers compensation, disability payments or any other source) The most recent statement of income indicating the total amount of income from the applicable source during the current year or, if such a statement is not provided, a letter from the appropriate authority stating the required information.

Source: Ontario Ministry of the Attorney General

Separation & Divorce – Creating a Parenting Plan

Separation & Divorce – Creating a Parenting Plan

Creating a Parenting Plan

parenting-planA parenting plan outlines more information and flexibility than traditional custody agreements because they are negotiated and discussed between the parents and address all aspects of child custody. Parents can incorporate as much or as little information as needed and  agree to change the plan as your situation requires. A parenting plan outlines the parenting arrangements for a child including a schedule of the times each parent will spend with the child and information about who will make major decisions about education, medical care and more.

The parenting plan needs to be practical, according to each parent’s situation and in your child’s best interests. It’s important to set out ground rules about what information you will share with each other about the children and to decide how you will discuss parenting issues that come up from time to time. This includes information about education and school work, health and dental care, counselling, and who can attend school events, parent-teacher meetings and extra-curricular activities.

What to Consider When Making a Parenting Plan

  1. Living arrangements and parenting schedules
  2. Vacation, holidays and special days
  3. Health care
  4. Education
  5. Extra-curricular activities
  6. Religion
  7. Culture
  8. Grandparents and extended family
  9. Travel
  10. Communication between parents
  11. Making changes to parenting plan
  12. Solving Problems
  13. Child support

Source for detailed discussion points on each topic: Department of Justice

Resources

Legislation

Separation & Divorce – Daycare Part 3

Separation & Divorce – Daycare Part 3

daycare3There is an end in sight when it comes to daycare expenses.  But parents don’t always agree on the age at which daycare is no longer necessary.  Daycares are usually licensed to take children up to and including the year they turn 12 years old.  Some parents are comfortable leaving a child alone at home as early as age 10; some prefer to have them in care until age 12.    Perhaps a parent feels that it is not necessary to pay for before and after school daycare for an 11 year old, if the child is alone for only a half hour.  Maybe it makes a difference if the child would be left alone before, or after, school.  

Childcare then becomes not only a financial issue, but a parenting decision.  If possible, include a provision in your separation agreement about when you expect payments for daycare to cease.  Knowing how long each of you is prepared to contribute to childcare impacts both the child and the parent and should be part of any settlement discussions.    

As in most custody and access cases, the facts are specific to your situation and decisions are best made by you, the people who know your children best.  Whenever possible, try to prevent future arguments by planning ahead and negotiating child support issues, including when the childcare obligation ends, well in advance.  Separation agreements should look to the future and deal with foreseeable situations comprehensively.

Written by Simonetta A. Lanzi. Simonetta restricts her practice to family law, including matters regarding custody and access, child support, spousal support, property division and child protection, as well as uncontested divorces. Contact Simonetta A. Lanzi 

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Separation & Divorce – Issues Relating to Day Care – PART 1

Separation & Divorce – Issues Relating to Day Care – PART 2

Separation & Divorce – Daycare Part 2

Separation & Divorce – Daycare Part 2

Daycare costs change substantially over time, particularly in the early childhood years.  Depending on how young your child is, daycare will be for the full day and for the full year; once the child starts kindergarten, which is now full day in our jurisdiction, the cost will decrease to before and/or after school only.  Some daycares allow part-time arrangements, but most require full-time enrollment even if the child does not attend every day.  If you are sharing custody a week at a time, and only one parent requires daycare, special arrangements would have to be made if possible.

For the summer, daycare attendance will likely increase to full day again, depending on the parents’ work schedules.  Even if you have vacation time and plan to be home with the children, the daycare may require you to pay either a portion or the full amount of the daycare cost for the summer to keep the spot.  If you choose to put the child in camps, instead of daycare, this expense would likely be considered a childcare expense to be shared.  

If, however, you choose to put your child in a camp during your week or two of extended access, rather than staying home with him or her, the cost of camp would likely be only your responsibility.  If you either share the summer or each have a dedicated week or two of ‘vacation’ access, the presumption is that you will spend it with your child and have no need for daycare.  It may be your choice to have the child attend camp during the day in any event — don’t assume that the other parent will share the expense in that case.  Talk about it and try to agree ahead of time on how you plan to handle holiday childcare costs so that you both have a full understanding of the child support obligations.

Written by Simonetta A. Lanzi. Simonetta restricts her practice to family law, including matters regarding custody and access, child support, spousal support, property division and child protection, as well as uncontested divorces. Contact Simonetta A. Lanzi 

Related Links:

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The Matrimonial Home & Divorce

Separation & Divorce – Issues Relating to Day Care – PART 1

Separation & Divorce – Issues Relating to Daycare

Separation & Divorce – Issues Relating to Daycare

If you have young children, part of your financial obligation will involve some sort of childcare cost.  On divorce or separation, the parents will normally share this “special expense”, provided daycare is necessary due to work, education or health reasons.   If you are given receipts by the daycare provider, you can claim a deduction on your taxes for daycare expenses. The rule that the lowest income earner must claim the deduction while you are living in the same home no longer applies once you separate and live at different addresses.

Sharing Daycare Expenses in Divorce or Separation

When deciding how to share daycare expenses, the parents must first determine which proportion each of them will pay — will you share it 50/50 or in some other proportion?  Will you each pay your share directly to the caregiver or will one of you pay the caregiver or daycare centre and be reimbursed by the other parent?  In both cases, you have to take into account the tax deduction.  If one parent pays the whole amount, the other reimburses his or her share of the actual cost, once the deduction is taken into account.

Written by Simonetta A. Lanzi. Simonetta restricts her practice to family law, including matters regarding custody and access, child support, spousal support, property division and child protection, as well as uncontested divorces. Contact Simonetta A. Lanzi 

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Family Law & Divorce – What Happens at a Case Conference

Family Law & Divorce – What Happens at a Case Conference

What to expect when you are litigating – the case conference

The Case Conference in a divorce case is usually the first opportunity for parties to hear a Judge’s view of their case.  If both parties have lawyers, depending on the judge, a Case Conference may be held in the Judge’s chambers (office) without the parties present.  It is then up to the lawyers to convey to their respective clients what was said about the custody, access, equalization and other financial issues being discussed.  At times, a judge will then speak directly to the parties in the courtroom.

If the Case Conference is in the Courtroom, the Judge will sit at the front of the room, at a raised desk.  In front of him or her are several court staff – the deputy (who escorts the Judge into the courtroom through a special door); the registrar and the court reporter, who records everything that is being said.  The recording is not published.

The parties and, if they have one, their lawyers, sit facing the Judge and staff.  Usually, the lawyers will make submissions and the parties do not speak; at times, a Judge might ask you a question directly.  You should stand to respond unless told otherwise by the Judge.  Then the Judge will give his or her views of the case, and make recommendations.   Orders can be made on consent at the conference or, if proper notice has been given, the Judge may make an order even if the both sides don’t agree to it.  Child support may be ordered even without the consent of both parties depending on the circumstances.

Conferences require Briefs, but these documents (which follow a specific format) are not kept in the court file after the hearing. They are returned to the parties after the conference or shredded.  It is essential to prepare detailed and up-to-date Briefs that inform the Judge, and the other side, about the facts you are relying on and what position you are taking on custody, child support, equalization and any other issues involved in your divorce.

A family law case will go through several conferences, usually at least two or three, before being placed on a trial list, to give the parties ample opportunity to resolve the issues on consent.

Written by Simonetta A. Lanzi

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The Matrimonial Home & Divorce:  How Family Law in Ontario Affects Homeowners

The Matrimonial Home & Divorce: How Family Law in Ontario Affects Homeowners

It is a sad fact that more than 40% of marriages end in divorce.  In addition, some marriages end in a permanent separation but no divorce and are therefore not included in divorce statistics. Despite this high rate of marriage failure, prenuptial agreements remain rare.   Of course, it’s easy to understand.  Nothing puts a damper on wedding preparations faster than sitting down with lawyers to discuss what happens if your relationship doesn’t last “till death do us part”.

Do You Need a Prenup?

Fortunately, many people do not require a prenuptial agreement.  If you do not have children from a prior relationship, own a house, have significant assets, or earn a very large income, while a prenuptial agreement may be of assistance, your rights will probably not seriously be affected by not having one.  However, there are many cases where the absence of a prenuptial agreement has a severe effect on one or both spouses if their marriage ends.

The most significant example and the most common in my experience is where one party owns a property before marriage which subsequently becomes a matrimonial home.  According to s. 18 of the Family Law Act, a matrimonial home is defined as “every property in which a person has an interest and that is or, if the spouses have separated, was at the time of separation ordinarily occupied by the person and his or her spouse as their family residence …”.  For the purposes of property division after a marriage has ended, this means the home or homes you and your spouse lived in on the date you separated.  You can have more than one matrimonial home on the date of separation, typically a cottage or other vacation property. You should ask a lawyer whether your vacation property qualifies as a matrimonial home as in some cases it will not.

The Family Law Act in Ontario

Before I explain why sole ownership of a property which becomes a matrimonial home is so significant, I need to explain how property division in Ontario (and most provinces) works on marriage breakdown.  In theory, it is a simple process:  with a few notable exceptions (see s. 4(2) of the Family Law Act), you are essentially dividing all assets that accumulated during the marriage.  You calculate your net assets on the date of marriage, and again on the date of separation, and arrive at what is referred to as your net family property.  Your spouse does the same calculation.  Whoever has the highest net family property makes a payment to the other spouse to equalize the amounts.  This payment is known as an equalization payment.

Unfortunately for many people, the notable exceptions I mentioned often produce unfair results.  There are many examples involving inheritances, gifts and damages awarded by a court.  I will address some of these examples in other blogs.  However, in my experience, it is an exception that relates to the value of a matrimonial home on the date of marriage that causes the most trouble.  This exception to the straightforward division of assets can be found in the definition of net family property in s. 4(1) of the Family Law Act.  The definition specifically removes the value of a matrimonial home from the calculation of assets owned on the date of marriage.  The significance of this cannot be overstated.  What it means is this:  if you own a home or vacation property on the date of marriage which becomes a matrimonial home and remains so until the date of separation, you must include the entire value of the property in the calculation of net family property, not just the increase in equity which accrued during the marriage.

Here’s an example to make it clear:  assume you had $300,000 in a bank account on the date of marriage and you just left it there until you separated.  Over the course of the marriage it earned $50,000 in interest.  If neither party had other assets or debts, you would pay your spouse one half of the accumulated interest on separation, or $25,000.  Now, assume you owned a home on the date of marriage with $300,000 equity and you still resided in that home with your spouse on the date of separation.  During the marriage the equity in the home increased to $350,000.  If neither party had other assets or debts, now you owe your spouse half of $350,000 or $175,000. In this example, you owe your spouse an additional $150,000 because your date of marriage asset was a matrimonial home rather than a bank account.

Divorce & Family Law: What Should a Homeowner Do?

It is not often that I can offer simple solutions to such a serious issue, but in this case I am please to be able to do so.  Perhaps that is why the Ontario government has ignored the recommendations of the Ontario Law Commission for the last 20 years to change this unfortunate law.  In any event, there are two ways to avoid the unfair result of this matrimonial home exception.

This first solution is to enter into a prenuptial agreement. If you are already married, you can enter into a marriage contract and still accomplish the same thing.  I cannot emphasize enough that this document should be drafted by an experienced family law lawyer.

But what if your spouse refuses to sign a prenuptial agreement or marriage contract? The solution is actually more straightforward and reliable from a legal perspective.  Sell your home or vacation property after you get married but before you separate.  Once the home is sold, it can never be a matrimonial home and you will be able to preserve your equity in the property as a date of marriage asset.  Your date of marriage equity will still be preserved even if you invest the sale proceeds in another property.  This solution does not depend on an agreement the validity of which may be challenged by your spouse after separation.

For those residing in the Pickering, Ajax, Whitby and Oshawa area, here are some helpful links to local resources:

Durham Family Court Clinic:
http://www.dfcc.org/links-and-resources.php

Family Law Information Centre, Oshawa:
http://yourlegalrights.on.ca/organization/family-law-information-centre-flic-oshawa

Michael Reilly is a family law lawyer and mediator practising in Pickering Village, Ajax, Ontario.